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This is tricky. Religious pressures are one thing, but I'll wager that playing poker isn't quite such a "grey area" - find a friendly rabbi who will help you put it in perspective, because I'm sure there's a more black/white answer than the one you're giving here. It's clear your religion is more important to you - if it decrees you should quit, then you must quit. There can't be any other answer.
Do you also really think gambling is dishonest? Unless you are a crook, or are dealing with crooks, it strikes me that gambling is actually EXTREMELY honest - the rules, the odds, everything is set in stone, you understand the risks. Do you mean it's dishonest because lying in betting form is an intrinsic part of the game? I fear there are very, very few professions where 100% honesty will give you the best results. Think of following the rules as being "honest", and then your quandary should disappear.
Do you think you have a gambling problem? First off, you have a problem that earns you money, so that particular issue, as long as it continues, can be discounted. far more important is the question that all of us have to ask ourselves - does our poker habit negatively impact on our lives? If the answer to this is yes, then by all means make efforts to remedy it - this is common sense, it's not connected to your beliefs.
You say you don't want to play poker when you get married and have kids. Have you asked yourself why? My reading of this sentence is that your prospective wife, her family, and your mutual society will disapprove. And that is a big deal, if it turns out to be the case. But perhaps she won't - if you are a poker player when she meets you, then she may learn to love that part of you as well (my gf disapproves of my poker, but it was something I picked up after we'd been together over two years and were living together - a very different circumstance. Nevertheless, we have reached a happy balance). Perhaps you could think of it the same way a smoker thinks of pregnancy - I know I will have to give up then, and I will be mentally prepared to do so, but until it happens I will continue to enjoy it.
So, to conclude - there are a number of issues here, some connected to religion, some to your own worries and some to the (projected) worries of others. I think your own apparently fundamental disapproval will eventually make your mind up for you, but you can make a plan of action - let's say you decide to keep playing for now to build a nest egg to spend on the house you and this future family of yours will come to inhabit. Morally I think that sounds about as acceptable as could be! And if you are prepared for the fact that at some point you will probably have to quit, then you should be able to when that time comes - you've been playing a while now, you're unlikely to become *more* addicted if you continue.
I applaud you for thinking about all this and taking the issues so seriously. I know it won't be easy to come to a conclusion that satisfied every factor, but I'm sure you will come to one.
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