Sounds like we're getting somewhere. Bravo.
Now here's my problem. I more or less understand the problem and sit down with a few basic rules such as I must be patient, I must not bluff when I don't know for sure I have fold equity etc.
And then I sit down, play a bit (playing well) then get impatient and start pushing to create situations again.
Obviously we all have our own ways of dealing with things and I think patience is probably the thing that's causing you problems here which manifests in the 6 symptoms you list. Rather than try to fix each symptom seperately, is there a way you can think about and approach the game that doesn't just try to fix symptoms but which cut to the underlying reason and addresses that?
Personally, I find that playing fewer tables in a studying/practicing mode actually help me. And with other kinds of tilt it's the other way around and I need to increase my number of tables.
I think the real success will probably come from questioning assumptions and being better to listen to all manner of inner voices. As an example it's probably patently wrong to consider myself a one-tabler, 4-tabler or 12-tabler. Instead, I should open up a table, determine if I'm playing well and if I am open another - until I hit the equilibrium where I am working optimally - so I need to constantly self-assess if I'm playing well and make adjustments to not just my game but also the way I play the game (including such things as how many tables I play) to ensure that I am playing my A game. Anything that can take me off my A game I need to recognise when it happens and accept the consequence. Maybe I just need to take a break.
Imo think about how you can recognize in yourself when you have patience and when you don't.
I'm struggling with this manner of thing myself and it's the reason for me dumping 2/3 of my bankroll recently (half of which I've won back). But really, the trick is not to bandaid obvious symptoms but rather to develop strategies that prevent them from occurring and developing good (or in poker-speak profitable) habits.