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 Originally Posted by a500lbgorilla
Words don't hurt.
Yes they do. I know someone who was teased about their nose as a child and now gets extremely distressed by any reference to it. Words can hurt very much and fuel a demand for rhinoplasty. You say you use the gay words, the nerd ones etc, but you don't mention the racial ones. I would bet my roll that you don't refer to African Americans as niggers probably ever and certainly not amongst strangers. Why is the word fag any different? If you are using that word and I don't know you, am I more likely to think you are homophobe or that you are just messing around and are really a homophile?
Originally Posted by a500lbgorilla
I'd first suggest you develop a thick skin against the implied derision against homosexuality,....
Why should I? Other peoples insensitivity is not my problem. You say everyone is welcome at FTR, but is everyone made to feel welcome? When I see gay frequently used as a synonym for bad and a bunch of gay jokes, am I meant to think: "that is a site that welcomes the gays"? I have stuck around long enough to work out that most of the active members are not really card carrying homophobes wearing "Kill the Fags" T Shirts, but I do wonder whether others don't just take one glance and move on. Its not as if the site is teeming with out and proud gays.
If by develop a thick skin, you mean don't get worked up about it, then I agree with you. Referring to a gaybet is hardly homo hate crime of the year and I haven't been complaining and organising protest marches about it. However, a bunch of people were saying that they could not see the attraction of a gay site and so the purpose of my post was to explain that I would prefer getting the good poker content without any homosexual derision. If brokeback poker supplies that then I will be there, not here.
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