Engagement Ring: Optimal stone width to finger width ratio

[spoonitnow]

What looks best in general? Ignore the OMFG BALLIN aspect.

[zook]

whatever your woman likes

[wufwugy]

omfg ballin gettin married righto marklar

[spoonitnow]

whatever your woman likes

She would be content with like a $50 ring from Wal-mart, so that's not really a major concern.

And obviously I'm going to do better than that just to piss off her family and friends.

Edit: Also this won't be happening for months at the earliest. I just have absolutely no experience with jewelery.

[Ragnar4]

umm.. it depends on the girl. Dainty petite women tend to look better with smaller rings that are more delicate.

If I remember your girl is quite, small, so you'd be more appropriate going for delicate, than a huskier choice.

Also... the traditional measure is three months salary for a ring. Worry more about that, than anything else.

[swiggidy]

I think you're looking at it wrong.

Since you are ok spending money and she doesn't care about size, maybe look into ornate bands, or lots of small diamonds around the larger one or something.

You question is almost "how do I play KK"

[spoonitnow]

umm.. it depends on the girl. Dainty petite women tend to look better with smaller rings that are more delicate.

If I remember your girl is quite, small, so you'd be more appropriate going for delicate, than a huskier choice.

Also... the traditional measure is three months salary for a ring. Worry more about that, than anything else.

The bold is laughable at best. The three months salary crap is some of the best marketing ever.

For the rest, that's why I'm asking in comparison to the width of the finger.

I think you're looking at it wrong.

Since you are ok spending money and she doesn't care about size, maybe look into ornate bands, or lots of small diamonds around the larger one or something.

You question is almost "how do I play KK"

Again, I'm just curious about what people think about proportions because my girl's hands are like super tiny. And also, this isn't what I'm basing my entire decision over [obviously], was just curious what people thought about that particular proportion.

[swiggidy]

just curious what people thought about that particular proportion.

Never thought about it. I'm going to happy hour tomorrow with some girls who's goal in life is to get married and I'll take a poll.

[spoonitnow]

just curious what people thought about that particular proportion.

Never thought about it. I'm going to happy hour tomorrow with some girls who's goal in life is to get married and I'll take a poll.

Haha okay thanks.

[UG]

if you have other friends that are married/engaged, just make sure it's a bigger and better diamond than the ones they have



p.s. fwiw I've honestly never heard of anyone basing the diamond size on how big the girl's fingers were...

[spoonitnow]

if you have other friends that are married/engaged, just make sure it's a bigger and better diamond than the ones they have



p.s. fwiw I've honestly never heard of anyone basing the diamond size on how big the girl's fingers were...

Massive l d o on the first thing.

For the second thing, omfg I'm not, it was just a random thought about what people thought and I decided to post a poll about it so just answer the poll about what you think would be the most aesthetically pleasing ratio and proceed to talk about blood diamonds plz ty.

[swiggidy]

For the second thing, omfg I'm not, it was just a random thought about what people thought and I decided to post a poll about it so just answer the poll about what you think would be the most aesthetically pleasing ratio and proceed to talk about blood diamonds plz ty.

I tried to vote for 1.6180339887 but I didn't see it as an option.

[spoonitnow]

For the second thing, omfg I'm not, it was just a random thought about what people thought and I decided to post a poll about it so just answer the poll about what you think would be the most aesthetically pleasing ratio and proceed to talk about blood diamonds plz ty.

I tried to vote for 1.6180339887 but I didn't see it as an option.

Being a math guy, this was actually my initial thought heh.

[UG]

I'll have to check the wife's ring when she gets home from work to be sure, but looking at old pictures it seems that her's is around 1/3 the size of her finger.

She has a 1.35 karat princess cut ring, and her finger size is normal.


EDIT: It might be 1/2 the size of her finger, like I said, I'll check.

[swiggidy]

I'll have to check the wife's ring when she gets home from work to be sure, but looking at old pictures it seems that her's is around 1/3 the size of her finger.

She has a 1.35 karat princess cut ring, and her finger size is normal.


EDIT: It might be 1/2 the size of her finger, like I said, I'll check.

Post pictures with a tape measure please.

[JL]

Also... the traditional measure is three months salary for a ring.

LOL

So traditionally most guys spend like $10,000 or more on a ring?

Where's the 0/4 option?

[yourfather]

ZOMG Sierra Leone. YW YW.

[KoRnholio]

If anything the fatties should be content with a smaller diamond. Inversely proportional FTW.

[UG]

it covers the center 1/3 of her finger, her fingers are a little above average so maybe for normal fingers it'd cover 1/2

[Ltrain]

It is really the woman's preference and will depend upon the style (heart, princess, etc.); I lucked out that my wife didn't want a large stone, but you can still spend money on quality or the setting. For value purposes, research the net on how to pick a good diamond. If a salesperson has size as their first question, they probably will give you a bad diamond. The priority for value is: Cut, Color, Karat and Clarity. Try a few locations until you find a place you trust and look at a lot of diamonds, they really vary dramatically when you look at them through a loupe. Also, check to see if the store has a Master Gemologist on staff and if they can do appraisals. For this kind of purchase, it may be beneficial to travel to a large city that may have a better selection.

Good Luck.

[swiggidy]

Happy Hour got canceled. Sorry.

[sarbox68]

Place to start.... Don't f-kin do it. Engagement rings are a bizarre cultural joke. Emphasize the relationship, go with the minimum (the rock on her finger has absolutely zero relevance to the size of your d-ck, balls or general place in the world) and then upgrade that sh!t over time when the relationship continues to grow.

A big ring for a 10 year anniversary is worth way the f-k more than one given before you all been through the sh!t that is life together....

And don't buy into the 3 months paycheck even for a f-kin second, or I will track you down... and I can do that shit.

Get something that's meaningful, memorable and looks nice on her finger. That means proportional. So if she's small, get something on the smaller simpler size. If she's giant... go with some nugget jewelry.

Either way, take the emphasis completely off of the ring 'cause it don't mean a damn thing in comparison to the 60+ years and half of your lifetime networth that you are committing....

... oh, and I don't really have an opinion on this sh!t...

[ponyboy]

What sarbox said.

Or, big enough so that all of her friends are jealous.

My girlfriend doesn't care either so my plan (when the time comes) is to give her a small piece that has been in my family for four generations - way more meaning imo. Then over time you can spoil her.

[UG]

sarbox's advice would work but I don't think spoon is dating a dude. girls think differently, and some girls care about that type of shit. my wife knew waaaay before we started dating the exact type of ring she wanted. nothing too big or elaborate, but it's not a $50 ring from Wal-Mart either. financially I could afford it after saving for a while, so I made her happy and got it. would she have been happy with a cheaper ring? of course, but she wanted this ring. Because she wanted this certain ring, *I* wanted to get it for her...

I wish sarbox's advice was universal and that it'd work for all girls....but it doesn't.

[sarbox68]

sarbox's advice would work but I don't think spoon is dating a dude. girls think differently, and some girls care about that type of shit. my wife knew waaaay before we started dating the exact type of ring she wanted. nothing too big or elaborate, but it's not a $50 ring from Wal-Mart either. financially I could afford it after saving for a while, so I made her happy and got it. would she have been happy with a cheaper ring? of course, but she wanted this ring. Because she wanted this certain ring, *I* wanted to get it for her...

I wish sarbox's advice was universal and that it'd work for all girls....but it doesn't.

All I'll say in addition to what I already said is that you can lean a lot about your girl's priorities, financial common sense and what you got to look forward to in these areas as a lifetime partner. If preference for ring and wedding party supersedes thoughts about starting life off together in as financially stable a spot as possible (esp in this f-d up economy), beware... that sh!t don't ever get better once the party's over.

It's not so much the size of the ring or the wedding... it's how much they become the emphasis at the expense of other sh!t that'll prove the most helpful clues. Refusing to buy into dropping most of your savings into a piece of jewelry just forces the question and gets u some answers a little sooner rather than later....

[UG]

sarbox's advice would work but I don't think spoon is dating a dude. girls think differently, and some girls care about that type of shit. my wife knew waaaay before we started dating the exact type of ring she wanted. nothing too big or elaborate, but it's not a $50 ring from Wal-Mart either. financially I could afford it after saving for a while, so I made her happy and got it. would she have been happy with a cheaper ring? of course, but she wanted this ring. Because she wanted this certain ring, *I* wanted to get it for her...

I wish sarbox's advice was universal and that it'd work for all girls....but it doesn't.

All I'll say in addition to what I already said is that you can lean a lot about your girl's priorities, financial common sense and what you got to look forward to in these areas as a lifetime partner. If preference for ring and wedding party supersedes thoughts about starting life off together in as financially stable a spot as possible (esp in this f-d up economy), beware... that sh!t don't ever get better once the party's over.

It's not so much the size of the ring or the wedding... it's how much they become the emphasis at the expense of other sh!t that'll prove the most helpful clues. Refusing to buy into dropping most of your savings into a piece of jewelry just forces the question and gets u some answers a little sooner rather than later....

well said. I wouldn't have married my wife if she was into herself like that, and I shake my head at friends that have married those types of girls. one of them is already divorced, they weren't even married two years.