My condolences. All of these ideas sound great. I think as long as none of the money is taxed too heavily by any third party, it's a good idea.

For example, I know paypal takes their cut (3 or 4 % i believe) which can add up over a larger sum. I have a feeling neteller has a similar peer to peer setup.

If it's cheaper to send money via card room transfers, that might be better. I'd hate to think the money set aside for someone's well being is being raked by e-wallets and casinos.

I'll be looking back here for more info on how to help. And best wishes to you boon.