To OP, you have to just get in there. I think this convo demonstrates that you're trying to figure out what to say and do instead of just acting on your feelings. I know that can seem paradoxical because not all of your feelings are pushing you in, some naturally pull you back as well.
This girl is clearly interested in you. Some of your modes of expression do have flirtatiousness in them, but you are thinking about the process instead of doing the process. Here's a great example of that
She gave you an in, but you stepped back because you're unsure of new territory. The key to solving this is to not care that you're unsure and unfamiliar, and to just get in there. This may seem hard to understand because you're thinking "yeah but how do I know when I should 'get in there'?" But the truth is that you don't know, you just do it. People who are not naturally good at deciphering language and behavior can only become good at it through experience, not abstract examination, and you're stuck in the abstract examination part. This means that your efforts to figure out what you're doing before you've become familiar with it will not yield satisfactory results.Alright. Let's say, hypothetically of course, I found one. What would I say or talk about?
I'd say, talk to her more, get to know her ask for her number eventually and then ask to hang out! And talk about just anything that allows you to get to know each other lol
Number eh? Don't you think that's kind of aggressive?
If, in addition, you have fear of rejection, this is the bottom line: it doesn't matter, and women are attracted to men who act like it doesn't matter. If you "get in there" and are rejected, it doesn't matter because you're just gonna do it again with a different girl. No one woman you're attracted to is special. You don't have to second guess who you are and what you want to impress a girl because if she doesn't like it she can just step aside to the ten other girls behind her
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