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About just going up to him and telling how I feel... You are all gonna call me a pussy but when I talk to people who really say horrible shit I get really emotional, heated confrontations make me teary. It sucks but it is true. It makes it hard for me to say exactly how I feel. The other thing is the guy is very self centered and people who are self centered can't understand criticism, or at least it is much harder for them to understand it.
When this guy comes and makes some dick comment, the comment is so ridiculous I don't even know what to say! It would help if you guys would give me feedback on how to respond to certain situations. Here's two.
1. Today he came into our room and saw my other roommate asleep. It was my other roommates birthday, he stayed up late last night and was still asleep. Chris, the roommate who is a dick, goes up to him in a "joking"(in quotes because the tone is just pissed off but you can tell he is kinda joking, even though it is clearly how he really feels) manner and says "get up you lazy fuck" "you're missing your entire birthday." And started ragging about how he sleeps too late.
Even though it is not nearly as extreme as his other comments, To me he's being a complete dick. Why are you ragging on a guy for sleeping late when he celebrated his birthday last night? Why does Chris even give a shit? For some odd reason, Chris is pissed off at my roomates lifestyle.
After he says his snide remark, what would you do? Do you confront him about what he just said? if so, what do you say? Or do you just ignore it as it doesn't apply to you?
2. Last night (the reason I posted this) he talked to be about how I was being inconsiderate last week with my girlfriend in town. I didn't mind his point about not wanting to be kicked out of the room so much (because we had sex a lot), even though it's being high maintanence. But then pretty much he started blabbing on how he thought my girlfriend was a bitch and that she was manipulating me, and how she didn't make an effort to talk to him at all. He called her a bitch and I was so angry at that point it was hard to think logically so the conversation ended with me saying that he can't talk about her like that and how if I was not such a nice guy I would punch him in the face (which I was very close to doing). All the things he said were pretty much completely untrue (trust me on this one), and even so he has absolutely no right to say that shit to me. The tone in which he was talking was almost like he was trying to convince me that he knew what was good for me.
How do I respond to his ridiculous accusations in a way in which he stops? I really get stumped on what exactly to say in this situations?
Any general advice would help, such as what body language is good, general rules of how to respond. Thanks.
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