Like I said, selfishness is a continuum, it's about how much hurt you're willing to put onto others to get what you want. At one end of the spectrum, where you want good things for yourself but not at the expense of anyone else, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it, just healthy self-interest and feeling of self-worth. GG. At the other end of the spectrum you're willing to do anything with no regard for anyone else, as long as it furthers your goals. Like I tried to explain, where each of us are on this spectrum varies, our circle of people who we in most cases wouldn't want to harm differs. I did not say we should strive to be completely selfless, just to consciously try to move towards that end of the spectrum when we can. I see no contradiction.