Does any other single nation in the EU have that privilege? No?
Indeed, no single country in the EU can hold the EU to democratic account.

And this is NOT democracy to you?
No. It's a single-party system. There is no alternative.

Like... should all 50 states get all up in arms because they can't strong-arm the US federal gov't? Is that democracy to you?
At least in USA you have two parties to choose from. If you don't like the current govt, you can vote for the other option. Still not great, but it's better than the EU. If one single state feels that being a member of the USA is not in their interests, then perhaps they should leave the union.