*** OFFICIAL BREXIT SUNLIT UPLANDS and #MEGA THREAD ***

[Poopadoop]

If I'm part of a society that's racist (which I'm not), then maybe there's a discussion to be had about what more I can do, but I can't change individuals.

You were doing a decent job of defending yourself until you said this.

What you mean I think is that UK society is not blatantly racist, like apartheid. But going from that to "it's not racist," is discounting the problems that people like Fulani face day in and day out. It's not always people using the n-word, sometimes it's more subtle than that. But it's still racist and it still pervades society. That's why it should be called out.

I get why it's hard to see, because if you put yourself in her shoes it wouldn't bother you if someone asked you where you're from, so it doesn't seem like a big deal. But surely, you can see, if only in some little corner of your mind, the colonial overtones of that question, and the implied superiority and entitlement shown by the touching of her hair and the repeated badgering and the condescending attitude.

And ask yourself, if a white person had been there instead of Fulani, would Lady TE have felt ok about touching her hair, and asking her where her ethnic roots were, and talked down to her like that.

(while using that word responsibly)

But you still haven't grasped the problem with what happened. Instead you started arguing that Fulani was making it up, "race-baiting," like she's Louis Farrakhan or something.

What more do you think I should do?

You can stop taking the side of the person being racist, how's that for a start?