Quote Originally Posted by ImSavy View Post
@ top bit - I don't agree with discarding all of that obviously I just think marriage is a bad way of going about it. You talk about legal definitions changing well same could be said here. Marriage isn't even a particularly good solution to those problems you mention either imo but different topic of conversation.

To be homophobic isn't to be evil or a monster or anything. That's my whole point about different levels of homophobia. I'm sure if you got into a conversation with him about it he'd change his mind but those initial prejudices (that everyone has in some shape or form btw) are still just that.
Yeah you're right, marriage isn't the only way to protect the interest of a partner. But having said that, there needs to be some form of contract between a couple in order to protect each other. Otherwise, are we saying that someone you dated for a month in the 1990's has a claim to part of your pension should you die? A marriage is a contract, currently between two people only in this country, but there's no reason why that should be the case, unless spoon is right and that it would just result in too many single men who would become aggressive.

As for the homophobia thing... I'm not saying being homophobic is evil, far from it. I'm a little bit homophobic in that I find the thought of gay sex to be quite disgusting. That's a natural feeling for me, but their love is natural to them. I also would probably not want my son, if I had one, to hang out with a bummer. Strangely, it wouldn't bother me if a daughter had a gay friend. So yeah, homophobia exists in many of us.

I just feel that if there were homophobic feelings at work with my friend, he'd have been honest about it in private conversation. Maybe he's not consciously aware of it, like I am.