Relationship/Money Question

[aubreymcfate]

I mostly agree with wuf but I also agree with JKDS that she could have approached it differently -- had a conversation rather than a break-up.

Ultimately it's hard to tell what actually happened. She could be way more materialistic and shallow than she makes herself out to be.

It's important for people in a relationship to be on the same page. I don't give a shit at all what other couples on FB page are doing that are considered traditional and important milestones for a relationship. That's because I am enormously satisfied due to having found someone whose ambitions, values, sensibilities, and lifestyle are aligned with my own. The people she saw on FB reflected fulfillment of desires that I assume she already had. Essentially, she wants the same thing as me: being tuned in.

Also, if we are to take her at face value, I don't think her being too lazy to provide for herself has anything to do with it. It's not like she wants him to be rich so she can luxuriate in the lifestyle. It takes two to tango when it comes to starting a family.

[MadMojoMonkey]

Also, if we are to take her at face value, I don't think her being too lazy to provide for herself has anything to do with it. It's not like she wants him to be rich so she can luxuriate in the lifestyle. It takes two to tango when it comes to starting a family.

Given that he clearly was not asking her for any money to support his needs, I find this argument to be a bit thin.

If she didn't want to share his lifestyle, then that's another story. It was presented as though the idea that she would have a career and work to support herself and her children was beyond her. It's not like she presented any discussion with Mr. Richkid of her future plans.

Two to tango to start a family? Plenty of single parents out there. I suppose there was a bit of tango at the start, but I don't think that's what you meant.

It's back to a lifestyle choice. Probably not most single parents chose that, but my point is that it only takes one loving adult to provide for children. The rest will work out. Poor people all over the place having kids that grow up and have their own kids. It's about love, not money. If the love is there, then everything else will work out... or not... but life will go on, and you'll be sharing it with someone you love.