Re OngBonga
Re: Paki "In recent times there has been a trend by second and third-generation British Pakistanis to reclaim the word. The word has been turned into a keepsake for the young British Pakistani community that is not acceptable for someone outside the community to say it, including Indians and Bangladeshis."
Same as nigga.
Hopefully part of the evolution of things. "That offends me." "That offends me and my father." "That offends me and my father and my father's father... Y'know what? It's mine now. Imma celebrate it." "Yeah, it was a big deal to my granddad, but it's just a word so whatever."
Now the children of the children of the children of the offenders are saying, "Fuck it all. Let's start at square one. I won't use Paki offensively and you won't be offended by Paki."
So what if white people owned black people? I didn't own black people. You weren't owned. Whatever the perceived or actual differences are between the two races, how is it not the top option to press the tare button in this instance?
That's my personal opinion. I don't care to spread it but I know I'd like to function under its assumptions. If I say something that offends you personally, I will apologize and attempt to avoid it in future but I'd like to believe if roles were reversed, I'd also apologize and attempt to avoid being offended.
It's a word, it's not your job to police the thoughts in someone else's mind. If they're a bit racist (which I think all people are), you probably are too (because I think all people are). And we both need to find a tactic that allows us to amicably work together and around that fact.
It may be that the impetus for these beliefs comes from being a white male, but so be it. That doesn't invalidate the thoughts.
Re: OngBonga, still though, your post comes across as pretty rough.
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