So I read the whole thread about your quitting smoking (congrats btw) and decided to start a new thread with a different topic... how to get someone to quit? Long story short - My grandmother/father both died of lung cancer from smoking for 30+ years. My mom has now smoked for the last 6-7 years off and on, but lately it has been 1-2 packs per day. It is starting to get real bad.

When she first started I tried the whole hiding her cigarettes, calling her stupid/other names and the usual stuff a worried 16 year old kid would do. I'm really worried for her because I can just tell how much it is starting to effect her (she also smoked for like 8 years before I was born). Once I started to become older and more mature I tried sitting down with her and having a civilized conversation about how much I care about her and how bad it is for her... etc etc. But nothing has worked. The thing that just confuses me sooo much is the fact that she saw front hand what it did to her mother... I mean it was really bad, she had to take care of her for over a year and was actually there the night she passed away - and I simply can not imagine going through that. It's just stupid.

Basically, I'm just wondering what made you (or anyone) decide it was time to quit? I know nagging on her will do nothing, it just won't work. Do you need to have the attitude "I need to quit" yourself? I'm really trying hard and trying to think of ways to help her... but it's like she doesn't even care. It's sad because my sister has also started smoking now (amoung other things) and her life is going in a downward spiral.I don't mean to bring my life problems to the board here, but I'm looking for some real serious advice. If I can do something to try and keep my mom around for another 10 years, I'll do anything.

It's weird actually... I've been having these nightmares of her laying in a hospital bed just staring at me... very creepy. I'll feel terrible if I don't try something, because smoking is just -ev in life.

Anyone have any ideas or any advice in this area?