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    Default tipping: it's such a stupid custom!

    To put things in context, I'm from Australia. It's not customary to tip for very much. Small tip at a restaurant, and strippers is about the only places I can think of off the bat.

    I'm currently participating in some rather heated discussion in a universitas21 forum (a global meeting place for exchange and international students) over tipping and whether one should do it. I'm in the minority and getting attacked left and right. So I want to run my argument through here. I'd really like to know what as poker players, you think - firstly about the tipping question, and secondly, about my position and argument. If I can get some more ammunition to support my argument that would be a bonus. Because I'm getting outgunned by the masses here. Cheers

    Basically, the arguments for tipping can be divided into the ideological and the pragmatic.

    (Pragmatic arguments)

    1. If you don't tip, you'll get bad service.

    1a. I can't refute this argument. It's what makes me tip in certain situations. What a shame. We live in a society where bribery is unacceptable. Isn't this just a subtle form of bribery?

    1b. Tips are not always visible. Will waiters actually know how much I tipped all the time? And besides, if it's customary to tip *after* receiving the service, I can't get bad service any more, can I?

    1c. Tipping degenerates into a "game". The point is to tip as conspicuously as I can (but then if I do it too conspicuously, it backfires). Is it better to tip a little but in small increments? A lot in large increments? Right at the start before getting service? Buy in lots of 50c/$1 chips on a 5/10 table to make dealers think I'm a tipper? Tip just enough that I can fly under the radar and not get singled out for particularly hostile treatment?

    (Ideololical arguments)

    1. The people providing service are inadequately compensated for their work, so you really really ought to tip. (For extra effect: the IRS assumes they get paid tips. So if they don't get them, they're in real shit)

    1a. It's not my fault if their pay is shit. My heart bleeds, but it's up to the employer to pay them properly. Shame on the employer!

    1b. Market forces should determine the price of labour - tipping screws up the system. Assume no tips. Then people would demand higher wages. If employers didn't want to pay those wages, they'd cut staff numbers. But before they did that, they would foresee that with less staff, customers will leave and they make less money. So the market conditions and supply and demand for personel in differing industries will determine wage levels. If there's too much supply in waitresses, they will get paid little. So they should - there's too many! The low wages will cause them to do other things... maybe sell things or become prostitutes, or miners, or go to another country with better wages (they're better because they need waitresses more). By tipping, we create a market imperfection and cause distortions in the wage levels, thereby we screw up the invisible hand of the market that allocates resources efficiently. (I'm a microeconomics tutor/lecturer. I've tried my best to explain my point. If you don't understand but want to know, tell me and I'll try to explain some more)

    2. If employers had to pay a living wage to their employees, you'd just end up paying more for your purchase/service

    2a. Great! That's the way it should be! Instead of charging me $10 for a steak and "expecting" me to pay $1.50 tip, just pay the waiters properly and charge me $11.50 if that's what it takes to deliver your product with a reasonable profit! Charge me 6% instead of 5% rake or 12% instead of 10%. When I teach piano, I don't charge $30 and hope they'll gimme tips. I charge $45 and don't accept tips.

    2b. I go frequently to a restaurant. www.lentilasanything.com - it's a pay as you feel restaurant. Would I pay them nothing? Of course not! I consider myself fairly generous though I would have no way of verifying because i don't know what others pay. But there's a difference. Because the whole meal is pay as you feel. Why should the cost of food, profit for the business, insurance, rent, etc. - why should everything else be non-discretionary but one element of the product I'm receiving (and the service is a non-divisible component of any product) is up to me? Either the whole thing is discretionary or none of it.

    3. A system of tipping means you can reward good service and punish bad service. It gives employees the incentive to provide good service.

    3a. Maybe. But in most industries the tips are pooled. This virtually kills the incentive argument. I can't reward an exceptionally good employee with tips, and they don't have the incentive to work hard because they can just ride along other people's effort. But if everyone thinks like this, they're not motivated by tips any more. A classic tragedy of the commons argument here.

    3b. There are other ways to give feedback. Why not feedback forms, for example?

    3c. Do we really go through a mental marksheet in our head and award a grade for service and pay our tips exactly according to that grade?

    3d. Policing employees and making them work hard and providing incentives to do so is not my job! Again, the employer and specifically their HR department should be doing that.

    4. The custom is so well entrenched, there's nothing we can do about it. If you try to "rebel" or "reform" the system, all you're doing is punishing the employees that don't deserve punishment

    4a. I don't have a very good response, except to say I object to the "damn, it's too hard to change, just live with it" line in principle. It's a bad attitude. Where would we be if Mandela, Teresa, and Gandhi thought like that?

    4b. If that's the only valid or undisputed argument available to the tippers, then aren't we all a bit irrational? I for one don't just want to be a conformist to peer pressure.

    4c. Reform isn't that hard. For example, raise the minimum wages (with associated negative market effects, but that's not the point here), and then employees don't *depend* on wages any more

    That's it: my refutation of tipping. Please flame away. I'm awaiting your counter-arguments. Am I just cheap?
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    Here, have a dollar,
    in fact no brotherman here, have two
    Two dollars means a snack for me,
    but it means a big deal to you


    I tip no matter what. If I get good service I tip 20-25%.

    A few bucks doesn't mena much to me, but if they get that from everyone......maybe they can buy food, pay rent, I dunno, feed their kids.......etc. Wrong or right I give it to 'em.



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    whatever you do, I would cease comparing being forced to tip to anything "Mandela, Teresa, and Gandhi" overcame.

    I don't think you're cheap, I think you like to argue and you need something to do. What difference does it make if you pay 10 + 1.50 tip or 11.50? But if your waitress spits in your food, you can skip the 1.50 now, or if she brings you the biggest order of fries ever, you can up it to 2.50. This is a problem why? If you think the steak should just cost 10 dollars, then yes you're cheap and this whole thing is goofy.

    If they pool tips, and everyone works hard and gives good service, this is a good thing. If you think wait staff don't notice when one of their crew isn't pulling their weight you've never known anyone who worked at a restaurant. If all the servers are equally bad, DON'T GO BACK TO EAT.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ultimate George
    Here, have a dollar,
    in fact no brotherman here, have two
    Two dollars means a snack for me,
    but it means a big deal to you
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    TIPS=To Insure Proper Service
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    Quote Originally Posted by bigspenda73
    TIPS=To Insure Proper Service
    then it's stupid to tip after the service.

    one thing i will say about tipping is that it is RIDICULOUS to expect a higher tip for a higher priced meal. i think a % is stupid. whether i order the $6 burger or the $15 steak shouldn't matter. the server makes no additional effort, and i receive the same level of service either way. salsa, i definitely respect your arguments. i hate trying to argue with people who are so set in a tradition or custom such as this one that they don't really pay attention to your points.
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    Tipping as a percentage is a good rule b/c generally the higher priced the meal the better the service. I don't mind tipping and I generally tip 20% for guys, 25% for chicks, and about 50% for hot chicks
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    Quote Originally Posted by bigspenda73
    Tipping as a percentage is a good rule b/c generally the higher priced the meal the better the service.
    are you kidding? maybe if you go to a higher priced restaurant the service is better than at a lower priced one, but i'm talking about ordering the $6 burger or the $15 steak at the same place. you are not getting better service out of your waiter at chili's for ordering something more expensive.
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    true and I never thought of it that way
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    Quote Originally Posted by martindcx1e
    Quote Originally Posted by bigspenda73
    Tipping as a percentage is a good rule b/c generally the higher priced the meal the better the service.
    are you kidding? maybe if you go to a higher priced restaurant the service is better than at a lower priced one, but i'm talking about ordering the $6 burger or the $15 steak at the same place. you are not getting better service out of your waiter at chili's for ordering something more expensive.
    I'm not going to rehash the argument from the first thread, but....

    If you are in the US and you want your burger and fries without leaving a tip, go to McDonalds. At least the workers are paid minimum wage there.

    Servers at sit down restaraunts here tipically make in the $2.75 an hour range. You might not think there's a big difference between a 10% tip and a 25% tip, but if you had to wait on 30--60 tables a night to make a living or put yourself through school or whatever, I'm sure you'd notice.
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    some people say they "don't have a choice" and they *have* to work as a waiter/waitress

    But you know it's not true. They have a choice to refuse to work for $2.70; and anyone who complains about getting such a low wage after consenting to work on such a wage doesn't get my sympathy. lets face it. On FTR we all know that any monkey who applies themselves could beat NL100 for $10 an hour.

    I'm going to add to this, because the fatalistic "OMG you don't fucking understand what it's like to be a blah blah blah blah stuck in the blah blah blah living in blah blah and studying blah" really pisses me off to no end. There *are* jobs that pay more than $3 an hour. They exist. And really, anybody can get them if they use their brains a little bit. If people didn't work for $3 an hour, employers would have to pay a fair amount.
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    do they pay waiters more in australia than they pay is usa
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    Quote Originally Posted by badandy519
    Quote Originally Posted by martindcx1e
    Quote Originally Posted by bigspenda73
    Tipping as a percentage is a good rule b/c generally the higher priced the meal the better the service.
    are you kidding? maybe if you go to a higher priced restaurant the service is better than at a lower priced one, but i'm talking about ordering the $6 burger or the $15 steak at the same place. you are not getting better service out of your waiter at chili's for ordering something more expensive.
    I'm not going to rehash the argument from the first thread, but....

    If you are in the US and you want your burger and fries without leaving a tip, go to McDonalds. At least the workers are paid minimum wage there.

    Servers at sit down restaraunts here tipically make in the $2.75 an hour range. You might not think there's a big difference between a 10% tip and a 25% tip, but if you had to wait on 30--60 tables a night to make a living or put yourself through school or whatever, I'm sure you'd notice.
    so after i say that my waiter at chili's isn't working harder for me when i order something more expensive you tell me to go to mcdonald's? nice argument. that's what i am talking about - it's just emotional nonsense. think about what i said and reply to that, but don't just dismiss it by saying to go somewhere else. and regarding the difference between 10% and 25% tips, OBVIOUSLY there is a big difference! but that's not what the argument is about is it? again, you aren't really addressing what's important here. i'm saying that there is a flaw in ppl's thinking about the whole higher priced = higher % tip thing. i'm not arguing that a higher tip won't help them get through college.
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    The reason I tip is because I rarely ever pay for a meal. I have many connections and hardly ever have to open my wallet. Therefore I will generally grossly overtip my waiter/waitress. I think this discussion is stupid and can only end badly. You guys saying you don't tip just look bad.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bigspenda73
    The reason I tip is because I rarely ever pay for a meal. I have many connections and hardly ever have to open my wallet. Therefore I will generally grossly overtip my waiter/waitress. I think this discussion is stupid and can only end badly. You guys saying you don't tip just look bad.
    i think discussion about things like this are good/fun. i'm not saying i don't tip either. i'm not convinced one way or the other about it yet, although i agree with many of salsa's points. one thing i am convinced about though is the stupidity of higher price = higher tip b/c of using a % as a rule.
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    yea the % rule sucks..........if i order some huge nice steak and my friend orders a little order of frieds, why am i tipping more
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    As a rule, tip well at places you frequent regularly. I worked as a server in high school, and I can tell you that we remembered our regulars and how well they tipped and adjusted our service accordingly.

    To salsa4ever regarding the economics supply and demand point of view: What you are failing to address is that servers already have an expectation of the kind of tips they will get at a given establishment, and they are adjusting their desire to hold said positions accordingly. That is why tips are not creating "imperfections" and "distortions" in the system.

    Finally, realize that it is society (not employers) that has created and propagated this system. A restaurant that built tips into the price of meals would struggle to compete on price against similar competitors, since the general public is conditioned to expect to tip on top of the price of the meal.

    Tipping is customary. It is not anymore stupid than greeting someone, shaking hands, saying "Please" and "Thank you," and various other mores-based customs that are established in our society. You could say that shaking hands is stupid because it serves no purpose except to spread germs, but you'll still look like an ass when you refuse to do so for that reason. Logic need not apply in this circumstance.
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    its freaking a couple of dollars


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    I tipped $8 on a $22 haircut 2 days ago. I'm a baller.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Harry
    I tipped $8 on a $22 haircut 2 days ago. I'm a baller.
    You must be pretty hot dude.


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    i would tip $8 on a haircut if i got a happy ending
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ultimate George
    its freaking a couple of dollars
    ya that's how i feel about it
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    Default Re: tipping: it's such a stupid custom!

    I like some of your points, but more importantly, I like that you are actually thinking about the issue instead of dismissing it as unarguable as so many others are.

    I personally tip, and tip customary amounts, but I am not completely satisfied with the system. It is not so much of a problem for me that I care to actually do anything about it (as others have said, it's just a couple dollars so it's really not a big deal). But at the same time I still enjoy the philosophical discussion.

    Below are my itemized responses to your post.

    1. If you don't tip, you'll get bad service.

    1a. I can't refute this argument. It's what makes me tip in certain situations. What a shame. We live in a society where bribery is unacceptable. Isn't this just a subtle form of bribery?
    If you want to call this a subtle form of bribery than it is incorrect to say that we live in a society where bribery is unacceptable. In fact, given that premise, bribery is customary. And it's for this reason that I believe calling it bribery would be a mistake. I would instead call it market forces in play.

    1b. Tips are not always visible. Will waiters actually know how much I tipped all the time? And besides, if it's customary to tip *after* receiving the service, I can't get bad service any more, can I?
    Well the idea is if you tip better this time you'll get better service next time. Or even something as simple as if the waiter catches you not tipping after the meal you might get a nasty look.

    1c. Tipping degenerates into a "game". The point is to tip as conspicuously as I can (but then if I do it too conspicuously, it backfires). Is it better to tip a little but in small increments? A lot in large increments? Right at the start before getting service? Buy in lots of 50c/$1 chips on a 5/10 table to make dealers think I'm a tipper? Tip just enough that I can fly under the radar and not get singled out for particularly hostile treatment?
    Sure, if you care enough about two bucks to go out of your way to turn it into a game of "how much can I get away with avoiding tipping" than sure, have a field day. Personally for me it's easier to just pay the customary amount at the customary time and not have to deal with any of this.

    1. The people providing service are inadequately compensated for their work, so you really really ought to tip. (For extra effect: the IRS assumes they get paid tips. So if they don't get them, they're in real shit)

    1a. It's not my fault if their pay is shit. My heart bleeds, but it's up to the employer to pay them properly. Shame on the employer!
    It's not up to the employer. As another person stated, if the employer paid them properly and raised prices on the food to compensate, and told people not to tip, it would adversely affect their business, simply because the custom of tipping is there. People don't think it logically all the way through...they'll see 11.50 for a steak here and 10.00 there, and go for the 10.00, forgetting that they don't have to tip at the first place. Also, the custom is strong enough people will feel like tipping at the 11.50 place anyway, even though they're told not to (they will feel cheap if they don't).

    1b. Market forces should determine the price of labour - tipping screws up the system. Assume no tips. Then people would demand higher wages. If employers didn't want to pay those wages, they'd cut staff numbers. But before they did that, they would foresee that with less staff, customers will leave and they make less money. So the market conditions and supply and demand for personel in differing industries will determine wage levels. If there's too much supply in waitresses, they will get paid little. So they should - there's too many! The low wages will cause them to do other things... maybe sell things or become prostitutes, or miners, or go to another country with better wages (they're better because they need waitresses more). By tipping, we create a market imperfection and cause distortions in the wage levels, thereby we screw up the invisible hand of the market that allocates resources efficiently. (I'm a microeconomics tutor/lecturer. I've tried my best to explain my point. If you don't understand but want to know, tell me and I'll try to explain some more)
    This argument seems flawed to me. Tipping doesn't mess with market forces, it just realizes them in a different form. Assuming no tips, employers wouldn't fire waiters and waitresses thus causing the supply to go up; employers would simply charge more for the food to compensate the employees. In the end, the market forces remain the same with or without tipping. I am making the exact argument that you bring up next:

    2. If employers had to pay a living wage to their employees, you'd just end up paying more for your purchase/service

    2a. Great! That's the way it should be! Instead of charging me $10 for a steak and "expecting" me to pay $1.50 tip, just pay the waiters properly and charge me $11.50 if that's what it takes to deliver your product with a reasonable profit! Charge me 6% instead of 5% rake or 12% instead of 10%. When I teach piano, I don't charge $30 and hope they'll gimme tips. I charge $45 and don't accept tips.
    I agree here. That would be great. I would prefer that the tips be included in the meal and tipping eliminated.

    2b. I go frequently to a restaurant. www.lentilasanything.com - it's a pay as you feel restaurant. Would I pay them nothing? Of course not! I consider myself fairly generous though I would have no way of verifying because i don't know what others pay. But there's a difference. Because the whole meal is pay as you feel. Why should the cost of food, profit for the business, insurance, rent, etc. - why should everything else be non-discretionary but one element of the product I'm receiving (and the service is a non-divisible component of any product) is up to me? Either the whole thing is discretionary or none of it.
    Agreed.

    3. A system of tipping means you can reward good service and punish bad service. It gives employees the incentive to provide good service.

    3a. Maybe. But in most industries the tips are pooled. This virtually kills the incentive argument. I can't reward an exceptionally good employee with tips, and they don't have the incentive to work hard because they can just ride along other people's effort. But if everyone thinks like this, they're not motivated by tips any more. A classic tragedy of the commons argument here.
    I don't know enough about the industry to comment on this.

    3b. There are other ways to give feedback. Why not feedback forms, for example?
    Compared to money, feedback forms are not nearly as accurate or ubiquitous as a means of transmitting information about customer satisfaction.

    3c. Do we really go through a mental marksheet in our head and award a grade for service and pay our tips exactly according to that grade?
    Obviously it's not a highly gradated system...but the general concept does apply, yes. People will pay a few dollars more for good service and a few less for bad service. It's not an exact science as you are implying for some reason, but it is definitely a real phenomenon.

    3d. Policing employees and making them work hard and providing incentives to do so is not my job! Again, the employer and specifically their HR department should be doing that.
    This is probably true. But at the same time letting market forces play here instead of central management can also be considered a good thing. I don't think it's important or strong enough though to make up for me have to juggle with percents in my head at the end of each meal out.

    4. The custom is so well entrenched, there's nothing we can do about it. If you try to "rebel" or "reform" the system, all you're doing is punishing the employees that don't deserve punishment

    4a. I don't have a very good response, except to say I object to the "damn, it's too hard to change, just live with it" line in principle. It's a bad attitude. Where would we be if Mandela, Teresa, and Gandhi thought like that?
    First of all, comparing this to Mandela, Teresa, and Gandhi is just hurting your argument. I can see where you're coming from, but this just sounds foolish.

    Anyway, "just live with it" isn't necessarily a bad attitude in all cases. Sometimes just living with it (whatever it may be) is easier than trying to change it. Trying to change it may not be worth the effort. It's all just part of a utility function.

    4b. If that's the only valid or undisputed argument available to the tippers, then aren't we all a bit irrational? I for one don't just want to be a conformist to peer pressure.
    Explain how it is irrational to conform. In contrast, I think it would be irrational to pull yourself out of the system without reforming the whole system at once.

    4c. Reform isn't that hard. For example, raise the minimum wages (with associated negative market effects, but that's not the point here), and then employees don't *depend* on wages any more
    While I agree that reforming the system would be a good thing, I don't think this idea will work. First of all, "associated negative market effects" are not something you can just ignore. Secondly, I think you are underestimating the power of a cultural custom like tipping--it won't just go away because of the introduction of some new market forces that discourage it. In fact I believe that implementing this idea will cause exactly the kind of unfair interference with market forces that you mentioned above. The market accounts for tipping.


    Also, while you didn't mention this in your post others have talked about the how it's ridiculous that you pay your tips by % of cost, instead of a flat rate, and I agree 100% that this doesn't make any sense. In fact this has always been my biggest problem with tipping at restaurants--not as much that it exists, so much as that is implemented in a way that doesn't make sense.
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    If tipping stops, the waitor's in resteraunts lose the desire to get your food to you quickly, so without tipping the quality of the food goes down noticably.

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    thanks very much for the input guys.

    The Gandhi et. al. obviously doesn't work, and the supply and demand will need further thought

    The irrationality of the % system is something I missed.

    I like the counterargument that refusing to tip because I disagree with the whole thing is like refusing to shake hands because it's irrational, serves no useful purpose and spreads germs.

    I'll have to think more about this. But I respect you guys for arguing sensibly and the "OMG how can you THINK about not tipping" people are not that numerous.
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    Re % tipping - I think taking average entree cost is OK, but don't forget that lots of rounds of drinks, salads, apps, etc add to the bill and the amount of work. Also, you should be tipping more than % would indicate if this is your philosophy and you go in for pie and coffee or some other cheap date.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sykedupp
    If tipping stops, the waitor's in resteraunts lose the desire to get your food to you quickly, so without tipping the quality of the food goes down noticably.

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    This is the only valid point made so far.
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    Quote Originally Posted by euphoricism
    Quote Originally Posted by Sykedupp
    If tipping stops, the waitor's in resteraunts lose the desire to get your food to you quickly, so without tipping the quality of the food goes down noticably.

    -Chris
    This is the only valid point made so far.
    lol that's hilarious. they don't do much anyways in the way of getting your food to you fast (unless maybe you dine in gigantic joints that take forever to treck across). the cooks cook the food and the waiters just take it from point A to point B. also, this does not affect the quality of the food. the cooks don't start making the food to taste worse or to a lower level of quality bc the waiter isn't getting his tip at the end. think people...just think.
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    If you don't tip as standard practice you are probably a schoolteacher.
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    Quote Originally Posted by salsa4ever
    some people say they "don't have a choice" and they *have* to work as a waiter/waitress

    But you know it's not true. They have a choice to refuse to work for $2.70; and anyone who complains about getting such a low wage after consenting to work on such a wage doesn't get my sympathy. lets face it. On FTR we all know that any monkey who applies themselves could beat NL100 for $10 an hour.

    I'm going to add to this, because the fatalistic "OMG you don't fucking understand what it's like to be a blah blah blah blah stuck in the blah blah blah living in blah blah and studying blah" really pisses me off to no end. There *are* jobs that pay more than $3 an hour. They exist. And really, anybody can get them if they use their brains a little bit. If people didn't work for $3 an hour, employers would have to pay a fair amount.
    The same arguement applies to patrons of such establishments. You're aware that the servers are paid below minimum wage. You also know that the difference is expected to be made up by the patron's tips. You do not have to eat there. There are plenty of other places you can get food that are not based on this system. If you have a problem with tipping then simply do not dine at places where tipping is expected/customary.
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  32. #32
    Quote Originally Posted by Warpe
    If you don't tip as standard practice you are probably a schoolteacher.
    Or black.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sykedupp
    If tipping stops, the waitor's in resteraunts lose the desire to get your food to you quickly, so without tipping the quality of the food goes down noticably.

    -Chris
    This is the only valid point made so far.
    lol that's hilarious. they don't do much anyways in the way of getting your food to you fast (unless maybe you dine in gigantic joints that take forever to treck across). the cooks cook the food and the waiters just take it from point A to point B. also, this does not affect the quality of the food. the cooks don't start making the food to taste worse or to a lower level of quality bc the waiter isn't getting his tip at the end. think people...just think.
    A) The waiters do LOTS in the way of getting your food to your fast. If theyd rather just sit in the backroom and talk to their waitress buddies for an extra 10 minutes than deliver your food, theyre likely to do that without a tip incentive.

    B) The waiter waiting an extra 5 minutes to take the food from point A to point B certainly does effect the quality of the food. It makes it cold.

    C) If you ask for a refill on your soda, or extra salad dressing or something like that, and theyre not expecting a tip just an hourly wage, they'll get it when convenient to them, not when you want it.

    C) Dont accuse people of not thinking, it makes you look like a dickhead.
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    sorry. i'm sure you are all thinking.
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    [quote]Or black.

    wtf!?
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    [quote="SaulPaul"]
    Or black.

    wtf!?
    lol that's hilarious
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  37. #37
    Quote Originally Posted by Harry
    I tipped $8 on a $22 haircut 2 days ago. I'm a baller.

    I tipped $5 on a $17 haircut and all the guy did was buzz my head.
    She looked at me and said youz a baby right?
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  38. #38
    Quote Originally Posted by koolmoe
    As a rule, tip well at places you frequent regularly. I worked as a server in high school, and I can tell you that we remembered our regulars and how well they tipped and adjusted our service accordingly.
    QFT

    Quote Originally Posted by euphoricism
    A) The waiters do LOTS in the way of getting your food to your fast. If theyd rather just sit in the backroom and talk to their waitress buddies for an extra 10 minutes than deliver your food, theyre likely to do that without a tip incentive.

    B) The waiter waiting an extra 5 minutes to take the food from point A to point B certainly does effect the quality of the food. It makes it cold.

    C) If you ask for a refill on your soda, or extra salad dressing or something like that, and theyre not expecting a tip just an hourly wage, they'll get it when convenient to them, not when you want it.

    C) Dont accuse people of not thinking, it makes you look like a dickhead.
    Again, QFT.

    Also, for the % of entrees thing ... When I was serving in a restaurant, I actually DID give more attention to tables with bigger bills than tables with smaller bills. If I'm really busy and I have a choice between getting refills for the table with the $50 bill and the table with the $10 bill, obviously I will choose the large bill because generally speaking, there's a $7.50 tip at stake there as opposed to $1.50 at the other ... Obviously this is read dependent (for lack of better terms on a poker forum lol), but it was definitely true when I served.

    I think the tipping system is great. When I think back to when I was serving, I know that some days, the ONLY reason I provided really good service was because I needed the increased tips. Sometimes you go to work and you feel like complete shit and don't want to go the extra mile because you just don't freaking feel like it. Thing is, when you're earning your own tips (like I did when I was working ... and like most servers around here do), you HAVE to go that extra mile or else you know you're not gonna make enough money.

    As an employer, I wish I could think of a system that would motivate my employees the way the tipping system does. Even though I'm a hard working person in general, nothing could have motivated me more when I was working as a waitress than tips did.
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    i could make a really intelligent reply, but salsa and this whole thread reminds me of a scene from resevoir dogs...which applies here imo. for anyone who's not seen it, first of all, just see it. second, there are eight guys out for breakfast, and as they're getting ready to leave, the one guy (played by steve buscemi, who fucking owns) goes on a whole diatribe how it's not his fault that waitresses are underpaid, and how it's not his job to tip them, etc. every one of them are supposed to fork over a buck as a tip for the waitress...

    the guy who took them out for breakfast sees that he's not left a dollar, and his reply fits here...

    "Cough up a buck you cheap bastard."

    I'm not even saying someone should do it because it's a custom. If your server fucking sucks, then give them 15%. maybe a little less. But man, if they really put forward that extra effort, why not toss them a few extra dollars? Put yourself in their shoes. You may be in that position someday. Besides, what's an extra 1/2/3/4 dollars? Will this really affect you? However, it adds up for them. I dunno, if you're going to order food/get it delivered/etc. you should be ready to tip a reasonable amount. It's just courteous...
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    because i suck at and run bad with poker i am a professional server. and much of what some of you guys think is just wrong.

    the % system is good. you can isolate incidences to make it seem not, but generally speaking, the more money you spend at a restaraunt the more your server must work. also, what you are unaware of or just forget, we tip out to a number of fellow employees on 1% of your bill, and must claim to the IRS at least 8% of our total sales. your server always gets less of the tip than you think.

    typically, good tips come from easy guests. typically, guests who run your ass off, make a mess, and suck in general tip for crap.

    a server has the complete, absolute power to break your dining experience, but if things go wrong, it doesn't mean it's your server's fault. all product goes through a number of hands.

    it really is almost impossible for you, as restaraunt guests, to discern what kind of tip your server deserves based on your experience. many times my guests have had a poor experience that they blamed on me, yet they are simply ignorant of the fact that sometimes the door doesn't know how to seat rotation correctly, the kitchen sells food that isn't done, the manager didn't staff up enough, the expo forgets add ons, etc. etc.
  41. #41
    Quote Originally Posted by wufwugy
    because i suck at and run bad with poker i am a professional server. and much of what some of you guys think is just wrong.

    the % system is good. you can isolate incidences to make it seem not, but generally speaking, the more money you spend at a restaraunt the more your server must work. also, what you are unaware of or just forget, we tip out to a number of fellow employees on 1% of your bill, and must claim to the IRS at least 8% of our total sales. your server always gets less of the tip than you think.

    typically, good tips come from easy guests. typically, guests who run your ass off, make a mess, and suck in general tip for crap.

    a server has the complete, absolute power to break your dining experience, but if things go wrong, it doesn't mean it's your server's fault. all product goes through a number of hands.

    it really is almost impossible for you, as restaraunt guests, to discern what kind of tip your server deserves based on your experience. many times my guests have had a poor experience that they blamed on me, yet they are simply ignorant of the fact that sometimes the door doesn't know how to seat rotation correctly, the kitchen sells food that isn't done, the manager didn't staff up enough, the expo forgets add ons, etc. etc.
    Sad to hear that.

    It reminds me the situation faced by exotic dancers who in both USA and Australia often have to pay the club just to enter, and must in some circumstances tip out the bouncers, DJs, etc... wasn't aware the same situation applied to restaurants

    I've thought about it and I guess it's just a courtesy thing. I'm never going to feel guilty if I didn't tip. I really hate the "it's only a small amount of money argument" But I'd have to admit that not tipping is a breach of etiquette. Like the refusal to shake hands analogy that I like. So if I failed to tip, I couldn't blame the other guy for being less than polite to me because I've breached the etiquette.

    I still think the way we have it in Australia where all people get paid at least $17 an hour (assuming you're at least 21) so they don't have to rely on tips and tipping is seen as a gratuitous sign of appreciation rather than something that 'should' happen.

    On the market argument, I guess there's nothing wrong with a system where a tip is assumed to happen by all the parties and they act rationally on that assumption.
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  42. #42
    Quote Originally Posted by Sykedupp
    If tipping stops, the waitor's in resteraunts lose the desire to get your food to you quickly, so without tipping the quality of the food goes down noticably.

    -Chris
    If the food is of poor quality - for whatever reason - I'm not going back there, simple as that.

    Compulsory tipping is something that's always annoyed me in the US but it sucks if the 8% IRS thing is true and I can see how the whole system has no choice but to play along. I would doubt this could be changed without some radical bill going through congress.

    As for the UK, tipping is not compulsory but I tend to give 10% or maybe a little more if the service has been good in a restaurant. I only don't tip if it has been particularly poor.
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    What's all the hubbub about? This thread has the easiest answer in the world. Tips are included in anything service based to offer incentive or motivation to ensure that service is done with quality. This is especially vital when dealing with service of something you ingest.

    You can say that it's not our responsibility to motivate good service, but I disagree. Not because it is our responsibility per say, but because whether it is or not, that's just the way it works. Someone has to do it. Might as well be the person who wants good service.

    What do you think accolades, promotions, recommendations, and bonuses are in non service based industries? They're tips biatch. To motivate you.

    Tips, accolades, and bonuses exists because working sucks, and it's a naturally depressing, grinding chore in most industries. Tips are the klonopin of the workplace, so that your attitude about being stuck at work all day away from your kids and lover doesn't rub off on the customer.
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