Ok, fellas, I finally got some good answers from our hosting center, the manager watched our server for a couple of hours, and he clearly stated that everything we've got going on at FTR is way too huge for our little one processor server. In his words, "your trying to run the indy 500 in a yugo".

LOL - yup, I guess that would be a problem.

So, I'm moving forward on getting dedicated service on a second server to run our database (which powers the forums and other stuff). For you techies out there, this will be the database server:

2 x 160GB SATA 10K RPM Hard Drives in RAID 1 Array.
1 160GB SATA 10K RPM Hard Drive for backup
4GB DDR RAM
2 x INTEL XEON 3.0GHZ Processors running Hyperthreading
1gbs internetwork crossover

So, now we'll be running on two servers, the first handling the http requests and the second more powerful box will handle the database.

It'll happen within 1 week, so hopefully we see massive improvements and everyone is happy! (man I hope so, this is going to triple our monthly costs...)

I'll keep everyone updated on our upcoming upgrade right here!