Here's a thing: so Floyd Mayweather has a history of domestic violence. He's been to court a bunch and served some time in jail because of it. But women keep dating him. To a lot of people it makes sense to blame the women for dating him when it should be the most obvious thing in the world that he will abuse them. But then, that's blaming the victim. Floyd is the person who should bear the responsibility of his abuse, not those who date him. But that neglects the fact that the women should bear the responsibility of their own actions i.e. choosing to date an abusive asshole. The perception seems to be that if Floyd is abusive, these women can just take him to court and get money out of them, and I think that causes a lot of disdain from observers for the whole scenario. I propose that instead of being able to take him to court, if a woman chooses to date Floyd and he abuses her, she should hit him with a fucking frying pan. That'll stop his abuse lickety split. Or she should leave. But instead we have a scenario where all parties are hogtied by legal sensibilities and the women who date Floyd have an expectation of not having to bear the responsibility of their own decisions

So hey maybe the idea of responsibility would go a long way to solve issues like abuse or misogyny. If a woman who dates Floyd knew that the only thing that stands between her and his fists is herself or her friends, maybe she would decide against dating him. But since a woman who dates Floyd knows that she will be protected by the law and get a shitload of money out of it, she is free to make terrible decisions and do her little part in perpetuating a shitty society

I wouldn't like to blame the victim. I would like to empower women to not date assholes who beat them. It seems the current setup doesn't do that so well, especially when he's rich and famous