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    So ... Iam 29 and shes 32. She works 13 hrs a day , I travel at least once a month for business ( a week at a time) , 4 weeks ( Honduras) once every 3 months. How long will it last? I think Iam in trouble.. This is my second one by the way. Oh yeah ... No kids. And sex is rare. I felt like sharing so I know where I stand. Thoughts?
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    And sex is rare
    there u go... once ur married ur never getting it

    and ill go ahead and answer for all the smartasses, why are u with her again?


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    Marriage is -EV.

    How is the communication between you two? If you have good communication/trust each other, distance should not be that big of a problem.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Corey
    And sex is rare
    there u go... once ur married ur never getting it

    and ill go ahead and answer for all the smartasses, why are u with her again?
    I had it all figured out because I have dated lots of girls in my 29 years. I marry one that is in her prime and me being younger ... Well.. I will be able to get what I want and so will she. I was sadly mistaken. I married a British chick too and Iam from the States... I have lived in Italy, bang chicks from Poland.... I could go on , but Iam sure I thought I was making a good decision.

    She's a smart girl, got a degree, cute, skinny, blonde, accent, funny. But its just fucked up right now.
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    Quote Originally Posted by givememyleg
    Marriage is -EV.

    How is the communication between you two? If you have good communication/trust each other, distance should not be that big of a problem.
    Distance isnt the issue. It's when we are here together. Communication sucks because I think we both hand Type A personalities. I know Iam right when it has to do with my interests. She is hard headed. Trust is cool, it's the work thing and not seeing each other. And when we do see each other.. It sucks.
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    I'm 30, I've been married for two years and grateful that my wife is a part of my life. (I was engaged to someone else previously, as well, though that pales in comparison to divorce.)

    Fasin8ting, I don't know you from Adam, so take my "advice"/thoughts for what they are worth ...

    Everything you've told us is completely irrelevant. None of it describes who you are, or who she is, or even why you two are together. (That's not to say that travel can't take it's toll.) You should marry her because you want to spend the rest of your life with her. The two of you should be the single most important thing is each others lives.

    You shouldn't marry her because you've been dating for X years, and you really like her as a friend, or she's super cool to hang out with, or you can't stand the thought of not seeing her, but you're really not that into her. Or she's changed, or you've changed, or any thing that removes the responsibility from your shoulders.

    Forever is a long, long time, and it's far, far better to end things now rather than later.

    Most importantly, you need to have these discussions with her. (Regarding everything (I do mean everything) that's important in the relationship to you and to her.) If you need external guidance, seek it (be it counslor, or clergy).

    Good luck.

    yorib

    p.s. A good marriage is more +EV than AA vs. A2 on an AK2 flop.
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    Quote Originally Posted by yorib
    I'm 30, I've been married for two years and grateful that my wife is a part of my life. (I was engaged to someone else previously, as well, though that pales in comparison to divorce.)

    Fasin8ting, I don't know you from Adam, so take my "advice"/thoughts for what they are worth ...

    Everything you've told us is completely irrelevant. None of it describes who you are, or who she is, or even why you two are together. (That's not to say that travel can't take it's toll.) You should marry her because you want to spend the rest of your life with her. The two of you should be the single most important thing is each others lives.

    You shouldn't marry her because you've been dating for X years, and you really like her as a friend, or she's super cool to hang out with, or you can't stand the thought of not seeing her, but you're really not that into her. Or she's changed, or you've changed, or any thing that removes the responsibility from your shoulders.

    Forever is a long, long time, and it's far, far better to end things now rather than later.

    Most importantly, you need to have these discussions with her. (Regarding everything (I do mean everything) that's important in the relationship to you and to her.) If you need external guidance, seek it (be it counslor, or clergy).

    Good luck.

    yorib

    p.s. A good marriage is more +EV than AA vs. A2 on an AK2 flop.
    I hear yah ..

    Here is the deal . She works a lot .. SInce she started her new job 4 months ago... 13 hrs a day .. I travel ... Its not really a marriage anymore.. Shes stressed at work , I leave, our marriage suffers... Thats all you need to know really
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    fold preflop!
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    If you want it to work get a new job so you can be closer. How about a holiday together or something?
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    I didn't realize you were married, I thought you were considering marriage.

    You'll need to make a decision. Stay or go. The only person you are ultimately beholden to is yourself (religion not withstanding). If it's a temporary issue (working too many hours trying to build up a repuation at the office) that's one thing. This will sound trite, by try making the time you two are together as "fun" as possible.

    If you guys spend as little time together as you say, than there really shouldn't be "that" much to argue about. I mean, if you want to do something you can always do it when she's not around. Of course there's always the big things like money, kids, religion, but small stuff shouldn't turn into WWIII.

    As always, good luck.
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    Shouldn't you be fucking her brains out when you are together just because you never get any?

    Ummm... Third times the charm (worked for my mom)?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trainer_jyms
    fold preflop!
    I am playing with less than 10 X the BB. Its push or nothing.
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