Good Wedding Present?

[vqc]

What would be a good wedding present ?

UG, Wildbob, as people who just recently got married, what presents did you like a lot? a little? What would you recommend giving? Preferably not cash.

[kevster]

Do you not have wedding lists over there?

I guess the best presents were things that we really needed (mainly kitchen stuff) but it might be hard to know if there isn't a list.

If in any doubt, the old favourite of champagne is always a winner. I had a fridge full of the stuff after my wedding - winner!!!

[flomo]

kevster is right check the registry

[Warpe]

A set of kitchen knives in a block. They'll have them forever and they might kill each other with them.

[flomo]

A set of kitchen knives in a block. They'll have them forever and they might kill each other with them.

wusthof classic are great knives an dso are global

[TylerK]

whatever it is, make sure to get it engraved with the phrase "congratulations on the biggest mistake of your life"

[Trashcona]

I think it really depends on what kind of situation the couple is in. Have they lived together for awhile? are they going to be buying their first home shortly?

If they need "stuff" then I think that's usually the best way to go. If they don't need anything but you want to get them something nice, then a nice ice wine or something of that nature should do the trick.

On another note, when my wife and I were making up our registry I really wanted to put a particular salmon knife on it(we would never use it), the thing had a like a 2 1/2-3 ft blade on it. I would have been stoked over something like that, the wife not so much. Hope this helps.

[drmcboy]

get them the gift of telling them to register, there is almost nothing that is as much fun as registering for your wedding. If you're being 'unique' then go with alcohol or drugs they like or maybe pictures of the couple, but really just get stuff off the registry.

[bigspenda73]

Okay, well, uh... candlesticks always make a nice gift, and uh, maybe you could find out where she's registered and maybe a place-setting or maybe a silverware pattern. Okay, let's get two! Go get 'em.

[UG]

(Holy shit this is long. I just got back from Cancun on my first anniversary trip.....that probably has something to do with it. VQC, and anyone else that reads this...enjoy)



I also think it depends on the situation the couple is in. Things to consider are how long they've lived together, what type of living situation they currently have (like how much stuff they have), and what type of financial situation they're currently in.


Some random thoughts:

I personally liked getting money from people. We weren't poor by any means when we got married, but the money we received from people definitely helped set up a solid foundation financially. So we definitely appreciated that. Thing is, though, at the end of the day our bank account was bigger and we were able to buy some things we needed/wanted here and there (which was cool), but we really couldn't point to stuff and say, "so and so bought this four us." It's not the best gift ever, but you really can't go wrong as giving money is the perfect gift to go to if you can't think of something else better...

Getting stuff off the registry is cool for lots of people. With that said, we had a lot of stuff already so there wasn't a whole lot we really wanted/needed so our registry wasn't very big. The things we *really* wanted were damn expensive so gift cards came in handy for those items.

I personally didn't like getting random shit from our registry. That's probably just the guy in me, and it's probably my wife's fault for asking for random ass things, but we'd open something up from a great friend and it was obvious they just went down the registry and said, "Looks like nobody has bought a stainless steel toilet plunger, lets get them that!" Make sure it's a useful item, something people may use in their everyday lives. We received a lot of random stuff off of our registry (plunger included) that we've probably never used more than once or twice.

This one is a beef for me, but don't buy something that you think your friends are "into," because chances are you don't know enough about what they're "into" to buy them something cool. I got some random ass poker chip set from a friend because he knew I was into poker. The thought behind it was great, but the guy didn't know I already had a set of 1500 quality chips, so that poker set is sitting in a box somewhere.

Buy a cheap but *really* random gift along with the real gift you're giving them. I'm talking like something silly, something that's so terrible that the couple will take joy in re-gifting it to somebody else. We got a snow globe from one of my aunts that was horrible, and currently it's making the rounds being re-gifted all over the place. My only regret is not re-gifting it the first time with a message that said, "send a letter back to me to let me know who you gifted this to so I can track it's progress throughout the years of my marriage" or something like that. Could have been fun.

Buy gifts or give things that have meaning. Three best gifts we received in no particular order:

1) A coffee maker that was bad ass. Along with the gift it said, "Every morning you can wake up and use this gift and think of us." It was extra cool because they live 1500 miles away from us and it's one of my best friends.

2) A picture from my wedding. It's pretty huge and is hanging on our wall right now. One of my friends is really into photography, so he had his girlfriend take a bunch of pictures and he picked out the best one.....photo-shopped it to perfection, and now it will be on our wall the rest of our lives.

3) A toaster and a bottle of wine. The wine had our names and the date of our wedding on it, and the toaster was just a really good toaster. What made it cool was the card said, "Have your first of many toasts on us." Kinda dorky, but cool either way...


Wow that was long, good thing I type fast. Hope that helped.

[vqc]

it's probably my wife's fault for asking for random ass things

Best line ever.

Thanks so much for all the help guys.

Thank you UG.

[WildBobAA]

I know you didn't want to hear this but, money, money, money.

It generally seems that people who give you money will give you a lot more cash than the amount of cash they would have spent on a present. The majority of the cash presents that we got were on average $100+ but the average value of the material gifts we got were less than $50.

[Zee Devee]

thats probably because they felt bad they didn't actually get you anything.