thanks for the insights guys... my game is very aggressive *POST flop when I have a hand* (TP or better) or after beign PF aggressor.. i raise and re-raise to find out where I am. I need to start working out when its best to switch gears and move onto the back foot a little and turn into 'let me call down for cheap mode' which is something I normally never do but would of been handy here.

At the river i stupidly raised $3 ...pretty much commiting myself and he re-raised allin for ~$5-6 more. I know im not beating much but I called due to pot odds and luckily he turned AJ