I like the way you played this hand. I agree that 3betting is an option preflop, but you have to be willing to get it all in. I would hate to 3bet/fold QQ. 3betting a passive 23/9 will get you a fold or an all in preflop IMO. You're losing to his all in range of AK, KK+. Take a flop and look for at least 2 streets of value. Fold to any aggression.