Pre and flop are good, though flop is a bit large (see my other posts on this).

Turn is too thin. 3 bet pots are all about that ace, bout that ace, and how good your kicker is determines how many streets of value you go for. No kicker, no bet (past the cbet). Having the ace does obviously make for a very good (and invulnerable) bluff catcher though.

River is a check/decide.

To throw my hat into the psychoanalysis ring for a second, based on all the hands you've posted I think you just feel very uncomfortable with the idea of playing bluff catchers out of position. So much so that you'd rather just bet for no reason, which will make your redline shoot up but your blue line plummet (because you're winning without showdown in spots you would have won at showdown anyway). Even the 2nd set hand that you posted where betting 35% pot happened to not be a bad idea, I sense you didn't do it for the right reasons (ie: you did it as a blocking bet because your particular hand didn't want to check and face a large bet, and not as a depolarization strat for your whole range.)

My best advice is to say that it's okay to put yourself in a spot where you're going to make the wrong decision some of the time. Whether to check/call or check/fold here is going to leave you handing them the pot when you had the best hand or making them win more when they had the best hand sometimes, and that's okay. That's poker. The fact that you're identifying the appropriate borderline spots is a sign that your intuition is spot on; if you can just improve your fundamentals, you'll be cruising. Which could be as simple as just flipping a coin and x/f'ing half the time you're in a spot that feels gross and x/c'ing the rest.