Utilitarian Spending, Out of Control

[mixchange]

I make plenty of money but:

I am an idiot.

[a500lbgorilla]

The last one is bad.

[bigred]

You charge at doors for parties you have? Geez...

[gingerwizard]

Oh My God.

"Don't get drinks at the bar unless a girl buys me one!"

My cereal went everywhere.

So you've saved like 20 gazillion dollars. What will you spend it on? A till to keep the entry fees from your next party?

[a500lbgorilla]

Hey Estrop, when did you start posting again?

[Fnord]

You clearly need to drop a bunch of the money at the nudie bar.

[a500lbgorilla]

Collecting wealth so that money is not a worry is great and all, but in collecting the wealth by cutting every corner, you're kind of defeating the purpose.

[mixchange]

I am an idiot.

[gingerwizard]

I knew a guy who used to buy girls vibrators.

But he was weird

[bigred]

you know rilla IRL?

[andy-akb]

How do you define utility though? Most classical utilitarianists would say that the concept of utility refers to some sense of pleasure or happiness which doesnt always translate to a sense of frugality. Now, Im not trying to be a huge nit by questioning your use of the term utilitarianism, but Im moreso doing it to make a point/ask a question.

If spending in this manner actively _makes_ you happy [not just keeps you content], then keep doing that. However, it seems like you have fallen into the exactly opposite trap of many of the wealthy; you save money, just for the sake of saving it.

Just let loose a little bit next time you go to the bar. Instead of chugging 5 o'clock in the parking lot, go and get your friends a round of drinks in the bar and then have some yourself. Worry about having fun first, and money second. Im obviously not saying to spend more than you can afford, but just try being a little more care free. Even if you dont think itll make a difference, I bet you will be happier [not saying you arent happy now] after making that change and your "utility" will increase.

And yes, I am a huge nit for making a long post in response to this.

Cliffs:

Collecting wealth so that money is not a worry is great and all, but in collecting the wealth by cutting every corner, you're kind of defeating the purpose.

You clearly need to drop a bunch of the money at the nudie bar.

+ some stuff about utilitarianism

[boost]

you so crazy

[gingerwizard]

Put it all on red 26.

[Aces]

You clearly need to drop a bunch of the money at the nudie bar.

....in Vegas

[sauce123]

life nit

[UG]

life nit

no crap, mixchange makes me look like I'm BOC and I thought that was impossible to do

[donkbee]

buying girls drinks doesn't get you anywhere with them, but getting them to buy you one (or having the balls to just ask) does

If you came up to me and asked me to buy you a drink, I'd laugh at you. I don't see how that works

[Galapogos]

buying girls drinks doesn't get you anywhere with them

You're right, if you mean it won't get you anywhere with them in the meaningful long term relationship sense. But it will get you laid!

[pgil]

buying girls drinks doesn't get you anywhere with them

You're right, if you mean it won't get you anywhere with them in the meaningful long term relationship sense. But it will get you laid!

doesn't so much get you laid as make for a convenient opening line. Unless she's at the tipping point, in which case it becomes very messy ethically.

[Harry]

You are fucking Ghetttoooooo.

[donkbee]

buying girls drinks doesn't get you anywhere with them

You're right, if you mean it won't get you anywhere with them in the meaningful long term relationship sense. But it will get you laid!

If there is a guy I notice at a club/bar/whatever, it doesn't really matter if he buys me a drink, I'll want to leave with him anyway. If I didn't notice him in the first place and I don't really care whether or not I get to know him, buying me a drink usually won't change that.

[Lukie]

buying girls drinks doesn't get you anywhere with them

You're right, if you mean it won't get you anywhere with them in the meaningful long term relationship sense. But it will get you laid!

If there is a guy I notice at a club/bar/whatever, it doesn't really matter if he buys me a drink, I'll want to leave with him anyway. If I didn't notice him in the first place and I don't really care whether or not I get to know him, buying me a drink usually won't change that.

i don't know why but this post really has an fnord-type sound/feel to it, anybody else agree?

[Galapogos]

buying girls drinks doesn't get you anywhere with them

You're right, if you mean it won't get you anywhere with them in the meaningful long term relationship sense. But it will get you laid!

If there is a guy I notice at a club/bar/whatever, it doesn't really matter if he buys me a drink, I'll want to leave with him anyway. If I didn't notice him in the first place and I don't really care whether or not I get to know him, buying me a drink usually won't change that.

i don't know why but this post really has an fnord-type sound/feel to it, anybody else agree?

Lol I was thinking the exact same thing.

BTW I think people interpretted what I was saying as if you get any random girl shitty drunk with drinks you've bought her you'll have sex with her. Obviously it's not like that, and if it were, that aint right. There's more variables to it than that, but the buying a drink is the one must.

1. Buy girl drink
2. ?????????????
3. Score!

[mixchange]

I am a pompous idiot.

[EzDuzIt]

i got the impression he was saying courtiebees post soudned like fnord, not comparing you to fnord.

[Galapogos]

It was Courtie's post that sounded rather Fnord-ish.

- Courtie, I would not immediately ask you to buy me a drink. I would first think of something witty and have a brief discussion, then I may either directly ask you, or say something like "OK, you grab the drinks, I'll grab a table"

This is worse than asking! This make you that guy that's tries to skip out on paying for shit. It's bad enough to do this with your guy friends, let alone a chick you're hoping to impress.

[flomo]

life nit

no crap, mixchange makes me look like I'm BOC and I thought that was impossible to do

you make UG sound cool



i'm drunk and thought this was funny
not so much ,, funny i think

[UG]

buying girls drinks doesn't get you anywhere with them

You're right, if you mean it won't get you anywhere with them in the meaningful long term relationship sense. But it will get you laid!

If there is a guy I notice at a club/bar/whatever, it doesn't really matter if he buys me a drink, I'll want to leave with him anyway. If I didn't notice him in the first place and I don't really care whether or not I get to know him, buying me a drink usually won't change that.

i don't know why but this post really has an fnord-type sound/feel to it, anybody else agree?

Holy shit are you saying that Fnord likes dudes?

If he does then he really put on a show at the Spearmint Rhino to prove the opposite is true! lol

[Galapogos]

Holy shit are you saying that Fnord likes dudes?

If he does then he really put on a show at the Spearmint Rhino to prove the opposite is true! lol

Switch hitter FTW!

[donkbee]

- I probably would not approach you because Asian girls tend not to like me, I do not know why, though I just nailed a really cute one like 2 weeks ago, but she was only half. are you full? if you're full, I have no chance so I would not bother.

lol

I wish I were half, half girls/guys are (usually) so hot.

[lolzzz_321]

Yes, hence my fave facebook group

Future Parents of Gorgeous, Half Asian Children

[Alexos]

Wow you're cheapo. The "asking girls to buy me drinks" idea is bad though, it's just not classy. And don't say you do it because girls find it intriguing, you do it cuz you is a fuckin cheapass.

Drinking in the car is okay though, pretty std below a certain age.

[mixchange]

I am an idiot.

[chardrian]

I like your style.

[Knytestorme]

[quote="mixchange
Nah, I don't ask my guy friends to buy me drinks.[/quote]

This got me wondering, is the concept of "shouts" done in any way in the US?

Over here if you're at a bar with your mates it's pretty much a given that each round is bought by a different person of the group each time for the night, when it's their "shout". Leads to some interesting dynamics if people start adjusting their drink choices depending on whose shout it is or if people constantly skip out on their shout etc.

Never really heard of the concept mentioned in any drinking threads/etc from US forums and this comment from Mix piqued my curiosity.

[TylerK]

FOC

[|~|ypermegachi]

asking a girl to buy you a drink works because it's role reversal, and it demonstrates you have balls and don't put girls on a pedestal. instead of the girl thinking "oh, another free drink, nice," she's now thinking "who the hell is this guy getting me to buy him a drink?"

even if it's in the negative, it's still better than the neutral reaction.

anyways, back on topic, mixchange, that's not strange. some of the richest people in the world are very frugal. warren buffet comes to mind.