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 Originally Posted by Jack Sawyer
The quality of communication on a societal basis has steadily gone down ever since the dawn of the texting phenomenon. Anyway: between 60 to 93% of what we say is said using nonverbal communication, and this is completely lost nowadays.
Not to mention how people prefer to socialize with people on their chat lists, rather than those in their vicinity as they should.
As you can see, I hate this shit. Not just the people who walk straight into fountains while texting nor those who have to text and send bb pins on every fucking stoplight they find themselves in, but the damage it's doing to our society.
Jack's posts aren't getting enough love here, +1000000 my man. I find myself daily being guilty of this behaviour and I can't say I'm happy about it.
Here's how I met my fiancee. I played a concert, she came up to me afterwards and complimented the tone I make on my violin, I thought aww how nice, let me buy you a beer. We got chatting, drank lots more beer, ... loooots more beer. I blacked out. We did stuff that I actually can't even remember. Our first kiss? Don't remember it. She had rug burn all over, I don't remember how she got those. And so on, so forth.
I should preface all that with: I had been single for a good 2 years or more - my last gf had torn me to shreds and I was bitter towards women for a while. then i started making weak attempts at this dating stuff, but really weak. If I made any sort of attempt at dating, it was super cautious because I wasn't about to be burned again like the last time.
and then it was like all the sudden I collided with my fiancee, we hit it off, first purely physically then later at a deeper level, and all that fear of trusting women had just evaporated, as if over night.
Point of all that was - it's a different situation from yours, but one thing is always the same, and that's that you have no idea what's gonna hit you tomorrow, and there's no point in trying to be prepared. Find things that make you happy. For me, my male friends were absolute key during that rough patch I had after that nasty ex. They were like brothers to me and we had so much fun that it didn't really matter so much that I wasn't getting laid. Make sure you have a network of people like that, people in real life (i.e. not on the internet) that you can talk to, go to parties and be idiots together, just kinda let loose, enjoy college life together with. Those memories will stay with you a lifetime and I wouldn't trade that for anything, not more sex, NOTHING.
Jack's advice about feeling good about your body by eating well, exercising, also solid. Basically whatever gets you to the point where you feel happy with yourself. Everything follows after that. Get to the point where you feel like you're so awesome, you don't need anybody.
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And then at some point in the future, you'll be seriously in love, and be proven that you were wrong after all, and you really, really need her.
Just a rant, just speaking out my experiences, but I hope there's some sort of useful content in there.
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