Relationship/Money Question

[Renton]

They're both wrong. I think it's pretty bad to keep that much information from someone you're in a LTR with. There's a whole other question of how long is it okay for him to keep that information to himself, but I think it's clear he waited too long.

On the other hand, she probably could have held out longer instead of just breaking up with him like that. And he could have done something other than just letting her go. It seems quite obvious this relationship wasn't meant to be if everyone was so willing for it to be over just like that. The guy probably was getting bored with her and took the easy out when it was offered, otherwise this might have festered into a waste of five plus years for them both.

[wufwugy]

They're both wrong.

i dont think she's wrong at all. good riddance of his know-nothing retard ass.

[NightGizmo]

They're both wrong. I think it's pretty bad to keep that much information from someone you're in a LTR with. There's a whole other question of how long is it okay for him to keep that information to himself, but I think it's clear he waited too long.

I don't think it's "clear he waited too long". Why does he have to disclose it? Would it be such a bad thing for him to stay quiet until he decides to marry a woman, then tell her after the wedding "Oh, btw, I'm glad we agree on money/lifestyle, but we don't have to worry about income for the rest of our lives"? Considering it's his money, I don't think he would be in the wrong there. It's a bit extreme, but if he's paranoid about gold-diggers that would be a good way to make sure that the woman isn't marrying him for the wrong reasons.

Besides, I doubt this woman woke up after ten months and suddenly realized, "I want things he can't afford". I wonder if the guy's version would include something like, "She bothered me about dinners/gifts/jewelry/her acquaintances' new car/etc every other day, so why tell her about my money?"