she probably could have been more perceptive for sure.


here's what would have made him the good guy and her the bad guy: if he were to tell her "i dont have the ambition you want from me because im already loaded. i dont like spending money and i dont care what people think of me. if you want to be with a guy like this, then you can. if you don't, then get out". this addressing of the problem clearly and head on would make him the good guy.

then what would have most likely happened is she would have tried to stay, saying that she's okay with his decision. but somewhere down the road she would try to change him. this is what would make her the bad guy. it would mean that she is secretly going against the wishes he made clear.